Friday, December 12, 2008

SIDS Death Impact on Parenting Style

How has a SIDS death changed your parenting style? What insensitive or hurtful comments have been made to you since your baby's death and how did you handle them?

6 comments:

  1. I believe I was always was a good mother. The SIDS death made me a more protective mother. I realized I could no longer take life for granted. I learned to live day to day and enjoy what I have now. There are no guarantees for tomorrow. (3/1/99)

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  2. Tabitha GigliDecember 12, 2008

    The child I lost was a twin boy (Gino). I still have his brother (Vincent). I find that I tend to spoil the remaining twin a lot and always worry about what I would do if anything ever happened to him. I do not have any other children however would like to have more. My concern is how my son would feel if I were to have another set of twins. I worry that he will feel left out. While it has been 7 years since we lost his brother, I still find myself waking up in the middle of the night to see if Vincent is breathing and usually check on whoever else is in the house. - (3/11/99)

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  3. At first I refused to let my, then, one year old out of my sight for fear that she too would die. Then I relaxed a little. I stress "little". Before I was really strict. Even though she was only one she knew to pick up her toys and help me because I couldn't do everything. Now if she doesn't I really don't say much about it because now I realize how short life really is. (5/3/00)

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  4. I am afraid to have anymore children. With my daughter being so healthy when she was born, and then to lose her, I am terrified to have anymore children. What if it happened again?? She was only 7 weeks old, how would I be in the beginning of my new child's life?? Checking on them every 5 minutes, not getting any sleep I don't know!! Whenever I baby sit my nieces and nephews I am constantly checking on them, my siblings tell me I'm the best babysitter they could ask for, they know their kids are in good hands. I know one day I will have more children, but as I said before, I am scared. Also, I recently had a miscarriage so, its been really tough. (1/2/01)

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  5. AnonymousJune 17, 2009

    Wow, this sounds like my daughters same senerio. She is scared, her son died at 10 weeks, his birthday is coming up. She has miscarried a few times and almost considered it a sign to not have chidren again. She has a 5 year old home. She is absolutley terrified of having a baby due to the same reasons. She doesn't think she will ever be able to sleep. Alway scared.

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  6. After my child died from SIDS I find myself questioning my parenting! I always thought I was a good parent but I am so confused right now! I have three other children and I am feeling so down that I am not able to be happy! My children need me the most right now and I can't even hope myself! I am not sleeping, eating and not able to pick myself up! I know this is happening but at the same time I just am unable to change this! I just can't figure out why I didn't know there was something wrong or why I could help him as his mother!

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